Just another pretty face

After a few interesting exchanges with NE Guy, and some better pictures, he told me that he thought I was more than just a pretty face, but maybe he was wrong.

To that I say...Fuck you, NE Guy!

I'm from Brasil

I had to share this profile when I got a message (hello !) from this guy. It's AWESOME. And no, I did not at all edit.


Weell im an out going guy , i was born in Brasil, , i like to go out with friends , watch concerts and movies ... i like sports .. basketball , football and soccer

i work full time , i stil take some classes in college , and thats abt it .. and i also play the bass around ..
i work full time , i stil take some classes in college , and thats abt it .. and i also play the bass around ...
i work full time , i stil take some classes in college , and thats abt it .. and i also play the bass around...
i work full time , i stil take some classes in college , and thats abt it .. and i also play the bass around...
i work full time , i stil take some classes in college , and thats abt it .. and i also play the bass around...
i work full time , i stil take some classes in college , and thats abt it .. and i also play the bass around..
i work full time , i stil take some classes in college , and thats abt it .. and i also play the bass around..
i work full time , i stil take some classes in college , and thats abt it .. and i also play the bass around..
i work full time , i stil take some classes in college , and thats abt it .. and i also play the bass around...
i work full time , i stil take some classes in college , and thats abt it .. and i also play the bass around

im good in manny thing and one of them is be a loyal friend and partner ..

well , usually i talk to everybody , im out going i love being around ppl ,

i love rock and pop rock music .. also like jazz , latin , mpb , and i love italian food .. >

You have no words, do you?

Oh to finally be popular

In the last 24 hours, I've gotten five new messages on the free dating site. Some of them are very short, and yet additional comments about my smile. For god sake's come up with something more original than "amazing smile" or "beautiful smile." It's so generic. Don't get me wrong, compliments are great, but they lose their impact when they are all the same.

One message in particular got my attention. It is from NE Guy and is as follows:


You like lists.......I like dots......

Seeing as how you are the lady I'll give you a list...........

Top 10 reasons you should meet me for a drink in the near future:

10 I'm paying
9 I will make it convenient for you
8 I like the Notebook too
7 I'm a good looking fellow
6 I have a big.........................heart
5 I smile too
4 We both speak english
3 I bet you look good in high heels
2 I know where princeton is
1 No on else is scratching at your door

There's a list for you.............................................................................muah>

Now I don't really know how to react to this. When I first read it, I felt slightly charmed but then on a second read I caught some nuances. Number 7 mentions how good looking he is, which he also mentions in his profile, yet his one provided picture is a head shot with too many shadows to actually tell what he looks like. From what I CAN make out, it's not something to be mentioning a bunch of times. I'm torn on number 6. Obviously it's supposed to be cutesy, but it's also kind of gross. Your first message to me and you're already making dick jokes? Hmmmm. Then there is number one. Wrong! (see first line of this entry for proof). Maybe that is another attempt at him being cute. I also am not crazy about the "muah" at the end. Eeeeh.

So I'm sure I'm picking this apart too much, and he's probably a really nice, single, mutant 43 year old who grossly overuses ellipses and lives in the basement of his mom's house.

A Husky Exchange

Siiiiigh.

After abruptly logging off last night, Husky sent me the following message:

What are you up to this evening? I know you are busy tomorrow. Sorry [free dating website] was not letting me send u messages. Hope you are well and I miss texting and talking with you!

Hi, I'm Earth, have we met? This guy has to be on something. The IM just happened to breakdown when I asked you a tough question? Really?

To which I replied:

Huh. I'm a little baffled as to what is going on here. I did text you, had texted you about wednesday and heard nothing. Are you married or something? What is your deal?

I mean come on. Between the whole debacle with our first scheduled non date and now this whole complete communication breakdown, this guy has to be hiding something.

To which he replied:

Sorry as I have been in Florida and super busy with burning cds and invoicing schools. I am also sorry for not getting back to you about Wens. I think it fell off my radar when I got back from Florida. I am not married or anything like that ha. I do not have any deal but I will say that it sounds like we are both very busy these days. I understand if you do not want to keep in touch. My hope is that we would and eventually meet up one of these days. Have a great night.

Give me a fucking break. First of all, I am well aware that you were in Florida on business. You only told me twelve times. Secondly, invoicing and burning CDs? Is that 24/7? It doesn't sound particularly taxing. Thirdly, you originally texted me about Wednesday, and at the time went out of your way to say how "open" your week was. And fourth, you understand if I don't want to keep in touch? Any guy that is willing to give up that easy is not the guy for me.

I did not reply to his message, but will soon delete all evidence of him.

If this wasn't happening to me, it would be hilarious.

Wait.

It's still hilarious.

This shit just gets better and better

So here I am, signed into the sad excuse for an online dating site and whoooo IM's me? You guessed it: the infamous Mr. Husky.

Here is a transcript of our brief conversation:

Mr. Husky: hey hotstuff
Me:uhm hi. I thought you were dead.
Husky:oh really?
Me:ah yeah. we texted about wednesday and then I heard nothing from you. and I sent you a text yesterday and heard nothing.
Husky:you did? hmmmm......i was around in the office
Me:I just get the feeling you don't really want to meet me

After that last comment from yours truly, he signed off.

There is something strange going on here. I still think he's just mildly retarded. Buuut it could be a wife, a poor sense of self, webbed feet, receding hairline, missing side tooth...I don't know. What I do know is that I am D-O-N-E with this particular hunk of man.

Over before it even started. I suppose I should not be startled that sketch balls are using a free online dating site. Ah well.

No. I will not make out with you.

Mr. Husky texted me on Monday to ask me my plans for the week. I responded that I was busy, but could possibly make room on Wednesday night (that's tonight for everyone following along) if he were willing to drive to Worcester. In case I haven't mentioned it before, Mr. Husky resides in the 413 area code. Eeeesh.

Anyway, I never heard back from him. Not yesterday, not today, not at all.

Maybe what everyone says about Western Mass is true: It is populated with retarded people. I don't know if he's just an airhead or a little stupid or just a very busy person, but I've just about lost all of my patience.

So go on with your bad self, you Husky man, but please, oh please, do not ask me to participate.

At least it's not heroin

I am exceedingly sleepy this morning. Coffee and candy are essential.

Last night, I received the following message:

"would you date a married guy?"

The sender has a marginal profile set up, no pictures or anything. The only info that is up is that he is 49 and married. I need someone to help me understand why a married man is on an online dating website. I suppose that some women wouldn't mind dating a married man but I cannot imagine it. Talk about a dead end relationship. You fall in love and you find yourself just hoping listlessly for the day when he leaves his wife for you. And that day never comes and all of a sudden you realize you've wasted 2 years of your life with a man who will never fully be yours. But you can't leave him because you feel as though you've invested too much time and energy.

MAN that's depressing.

I wasn't going to respond, but I couldn't resist. So I responded with "No. Never."

My name is Turquoise

Some days, I struggle to keep busy at work. I'll chat on Gmail or play with my new phone on the sly. Maybe I'll refile things I've already filed, or perhaps recheck action items that I know for a fact will still not be done. Other days, it's nonstop and I struggle to finish in time to leave. Guess which kind of day today is.

The current crisis is a non working fax machine. Why we still fax things is beyond me. The IT department seems to agree and took our fax offline to set up an efax system, which isn't up and running yet. Regardless, I need a way to fax things. It's what I spend a large part of my time doing. If that's streamlined, I'm fucked.

Also a current crisis is the fact that I have all of the company's calendars and inboxes in my email public folders. Someone in the IT department did an oops.

Manly Man has told me that he doesn't like communicating by email and that I should call him. It has been confirmed that he does not own a Jeep, but the turkey picture, wood splitting and dog owning still apply. Since I don't get cell phone reception at my house, this chatting on the phone business is challenging. But in addition, I don't really want to in most cases. This case isn't different.

Mr. Husky texted me yesterday asking about my plans for this week. I told him I could possibly do something on Wednesday IF he could drive more out my way (he lives in Westachusetts), but have not heard back in over 24 hours. I think I'm e-dating a retarded person.

I've got a couple new messages that I haven't had a chance to look at, but if they're gems, I'll eventually post them here. If I can figure out Monique a bit more, I may even be able to blog on her. Goody for you!

I will call her...Monique

Someone got a new smart phone. Yes yes it's me! Her name is Monique and she's beautiful. Now to figure out how to use her to her fullest potential. Hmmm.

I got the following message today from a new online friend I will call Manly Man:

"Manly Man here and I wanted to say hello after seeing your "sly" profile photo (it is making me smile), good match percentage and your outlook/words.

I am a single responsible guy who enjoys a laugh and good meal and good friends.

What did you do over the weekend? How is school going?

Nice to meet you,
Manly Man"

This guy 1. has a very cute dog 2. chops his own wood and 3. features a picture of a fried turkey wrapped in bacon in his profile pictures.

This shows promise.

If he owns a Jeep and goes off roading, sign me up. I'll keep you posted.

Sickly

Today was not a good day. But tomorrow is another day.

I'm not going to write much, as I feel like shit warmed over, but I did get this message today that needed to be shared.

"Bewitching smile... what are your zodiac and chinese signs?"

Do I even need to...I'm so tired...

He's 5'7".

YOU are the CEO of YOUR Life

There is a man named Lance who works a few rows down from me here in the ole office. He never seems to be at his desk, but when I have seen him I've noticed that he is...diminutive. That must by why he not only possesses a sign that designates him as the CEO of his own life, but insists on hanging up the sign for all to see. It was suggested to me that I find excuses to speak with Lance, in order to find more out about what must be his fascinating character. However, the only reasons I have to walk down towards his desk are to 1. Put paper in the shredding bin and 2. Put mail in the slot to be sent out. I do both of these things very rarely. So I need to find out exactly what he does and see what I can do to ascertain more of his elusive character.

For now I will just say "Lance, You Go Girl!"

Short stack

First, why would you want to message me if you a male under 5'8"? Whhyyyy?

Second, I got the following message, and I'm not sure whether or not I want to respond:

"Hello,

It's very nice to meet you, my name's Matthew. I'm a thirty year old man, living in the Florence section of Northampton. I'm new to this site, and to be honest, i'm not sure what to write in a mail to someone I have never met before. haha. Yet, I will say this.. I read your profile, and you seem like a very interesting woman, and if i may say so, you're wicked cute. haha.

A bit about myself, as I said, I'm thirty. I recently have changed jobs, which has been great. Yet, to be honest, i'm still trying to figure out, some things. Life, for most people, is an ongoing journey, of self reflection, and improvement. I am no exception to this. Now i have to decide, between two choices.. I have narrowed it down! Huzzah! haha. I plan on going back to school for computer programing, Social work, or possibly a career in early education. It's a tough call. But, till then, a kick ass job, with benefits is o-k for now. haha.

So.. I feel like i just rambled on, way.... too... much there.. so i will leave it at this. If you wanna get to know, a fun loving, charming, spontaneous, goofy as hell man, then you should totally mail me back. I hope to hear from you.

Take care,"

He's 5'8". How have things been "narrowed down" if it's between computers, social work or education? And why does everyone use the word "interesting" to describe my profile? Do I need to start handing out thesaurases?

He overuses the word "wicked" and has almost every super hero movie listed under his favorites. I like a superhero movie just as much as the next girl, but Batman Begins? Survey says...no.

NOT Cool

I was supposed to have a date tonight. Don't worry, it's not with anyone I have mentioned here so far. I didn't mention it here because I didn't want to make a big deal about it. But now I do.

Mr. Husky and I were supposed to meet up at a bar at 6pm. I had mentioned I would be coming straight from school, then a family function, so would meet up with him then. He had asked me last night to call him when I got out of school to check in and confirm we were still on. That I did. I also asked him to call me back to...you know...confirm that we were still on. That was at 245 today. At 430, having not heard back from him, I sent an inquisitive text message reading "We're good, right? Let me know." No response. At 5, I called him again and there was no answer. At 515, I call a friend and asked what I should do. Should I just show up at the agreed upon place and hope for the best? Should I try to keep calling? She offers to check my email, since I am behind the times and don't have email access on my phone. But I'm thinking to myself...who would email but not call? Not text? Or not answer calls from someone you had plans with? But guess what? He emailed me at noon today, the following message:

"Okay, so I am not able to meet up with you later today and feel awful. My father has all these things he wants me to do before our trip tomorrow and if I take off for the evening they really will not get done. I am bummed out as I was already planning what to wear etc. Ha silly me. I guess it might be best as you will probably need some rest and I would rather see you when we both do not have things going on.

Anyways, I hope to chat with you at least at some point today and again i am very sorry. Can we make a date for when I get back?

Mr. Huskey"

There are many things I have issue with. I'll list them.

1. Again, why would you not call me to tell me this?
2. I don't think I like your Dad. If he knew you had a date, why wouldn't he give you a pass and do whatever it is himself?
3. Yes, silly you. What?
4. I had already mentioned to him MULTIPLE times, that I was fine with hanging out tonight, even though I had a busy day and might be a bit tired. It's called coffee. Why will he not give it a rest?
5. If he really felt so bad about it, and wanted to chat with me today, WHY DIDN'T HE PICK UP HIS FUCKING PHONE?

God DAMMIT.

Quick Question

How does a guy who is 5'5" and blatantly missing a front tooth expect me to be interested in him? I can't imagine how he would...even after I told him that I hated his topless picture...and told him to put clothes on...

Or maybe I'm just a superficial bitch?

I guess that's two questions.

Bono should be launched into the universe

Oh my goodness.

The messages from potential suitors have slowed down a bit, which makes me sad, but only because it adds a bit of humor to what amounts to my daily existence.

This message came to me today:
"Hey there :) wanna chat? I would appreciate an answer even if negative."

Would you? Would you really appreciate my answer even if negative? Because this is what it would say: "I make it a personal rule not to message with men who 1. Are shirtless in any of their photos (count:1) and 2. Have sat outside a stadium awaiting the beginning of a U2 concert."

I would find all of this so daunting if it weren't oh so entertaining.

Don't write your dating profile on your phone

Just don't.

I know I'm on a free site, and I shouldn't expect much, but it isn't hard to know that "great" is not spelled "geat" and it wouldn't hurt to capitalize letters at the beginning of your sentences. You are a grown man. And no, failing to spell correctly or use proper capitalization does not make you more intriguing, I don't care if you're an "artist."

It's been a little over a week and there have been few prospects. There was 6 foot Asian guy who immediately asked for my phone number because "instant communication is just a better way to get to know someone of the opposite sex." Excuse me? No.

Then there was the open marriage guy, and just today is the guy asking me about trampolines, who has no shirt and is laying down seductively (or he thinks so) in his profile picture. I wrote him back and told him to put a shirt on.

Then then there is the "polyamorous" guy. Aren't most men poly amorous...or they wish they could be? Thank you for stating the obvious and YES I am very busy and you are interrupting my hectic schedule. Go away.

muffin tops and black thumbs

My job now is with a third party administrative business doing low level administrative work...with lots of numbers. So much numerical data entry that my eyes start to bleed. I don't want to say it's "below" me, buuuut it can get pretty boring. However, it was the only thing I could find part-time. I think I'm already really skilled at looking like I'm doing something when I'm really not. Consider it a stepping stone for when I graduate stupid school and figure out what the hell I'm doing.

ANYWAY. My first day of work my co workers gave me a small, potted, flowering plant and a card to welcome me. Very sweet, yes? Unfortunately, I'm slowly killing it. First all the flowers fell off, then the leaves started turning brown. I'm not sure if I'm overwatering it or underwatering it or what, but it's pretty much dead. What will they think of me?

Also, after trying on about 50 pairs of dress pants within the last month, I had finally found a pair that fit me last weekend. When I went to put them on this morning, they were already too big. I know this isn't something I should really be complaining about but COME on. So I'm wearing a belt, which is giving me a small but relatively noticeable muffin top.

I am ready for today to be over. My bed and my book are constantly calling my name.

One day, three posts

The hopeless sad sack from today's first post has written me back...with more questions. I don't have the energy to reply at the moment, but if the mood strikes me I might. Where does he hail from, you ask? Well only Australia!

If I wasn't exploiting his awkwardness purely for my entertainment, I might feel sorry for him.

Here it is, in all its glory:

"Thank you so much! You’re a total angel ☺

Haha. I really am from Australia, but please don’t let me ruin your image of the country or its inhabitants. For what it’s worth, I don’t fit in here either. I was just asking for the opinions of any pretty girls who showed up on my ‘Matches’ list that were online at the time.

When other guys have approached you successfully, what did they start talking about, or what about the conversation impressed you enough to take things further? And can you think of any better places to meet guys than in bars?

Hmm. I’m sort of ‘Michael Cera awkward’, except I look like an actual man. I was starting to think that if I faked my own confidence long enough, I might start to believe it myself…

Haha. I’m definitely getting the impression women are judging men as potential marriage partners and fathers almost from the moment they meet…

I have one female friend who feels comfortable enough to tell me about all of her encounters, and I wouldn’t be asking you if she didn’t tell me. One of them was, by her estimation, nine and a half inches. I guess I was just curious how common that is, if that’s what I’m up against with every girl or something. I know it’s ridiculous, but all guys want to be the biggest and the best, you know?

What do you really want from your guy friends – a brother figure and protector, or a girl without the emotions? Ever summon them for advice? Ever cry to them? Do you talk to them on the phone a lot? Or are they strictly for in-person use?

Thanks so much for your honesty. It all seems so much easier when written down…"

Now you may be asking yourself, self: "Really?!"

I am here to say yes. Yes. Really.

Excuse me?

MAN the freaks are coming out of the woodwork.

Another message today:
"How's it going?

You seem to be a cool and interesting person that is a rare find in the maelstrom of the internet, so I thought I would send you an initial greeting. I'd like the opportunity to know more about you. I am sorry if this catches you at a bad time, and adds to the possible deluge of emails.

A little bit on me: I live in Manchester, CT and work as an IT operations specialist (computer networks/servers) for a fortune500 in Downtown Hartford. I strive to keep my interests diverse though mostly tend to focus on movies, reading, music, science/technology, history, theatre, and socializing with friends (more is in my profile of course). Kind of jack of most trades and master of none in a way. I also want to be clear that I am Polyamorous, as I have come to find that tends to be a dealbreaker for some people, even for friendships. I am primarily looking for friends and friends with benefits (as any potential for more is very rare and yet a welcome find when it happens).

Overall, I am an open person, so if there is anything you would like to know, just ask. Feel free to take your time in responding (at your convenience)

Hope to hear back from you soon."

Ah no, you will not hear back from me soon. Besides the obvious...what is this about a message catching me at "a bad time." How is that possible? I don't even know what that means.

He must be friends with the guy who told me he was in an open marriage.

I'm unsure why the freaks are coming out to play with me, but it's pretty damn entertaining. It must be because the site is free, or maybe because my favorite movie is listed as Swingers. Hmmm.

I'm baaaaack

To my potential three readers: Thanks for holding on.

So much has happened since I last wrote, but it's all pretty boring and not really worth a mention. What IS worth a mention is that I am back to online dating. I know, I know. AGAIN? Oh yes. And so far, I've gotten some pretty great messages.

For my inaugural return, here is a selected message for your reading pleasure:

"Quick disclaimer: In case you couldn’t already tell, I’m basically an
idiot, especially when it comes to women. Hence the questions…

I guess I’m curious about:
1 – How on earth am I supposed to introduce myself to a girl without
it being a completely humiliating and regrettable experience,
especially in a bar? What’s an opening that is likely to hold your
attention – interesting without being corny?
2 – Is there any chance whatsoever that a girl could be seriously
interested in, or attracted to, a guy who is openly awkward around
women? Or is feigned confidence the way to go?
3 – How important is a guy’s job or work ambitions to you?
4 – How big was the biggest, um, erm, ‘guy’ you or your friends have
actually seen or dealt with in person? (Long story why I’m asking...)
5 – What do you like doing with your mutual, non-romantic male friends?
6 – To what extent is mystery important in a guy? Are guys who reveal
almost nothing about themselves likely to hold your interest for long?
7 – Do girls essentially prefer being the more mature and controlling
person in the relationship, or do they prefer a guy who ‘knows what he
wants’ and all that?"

There aren't words really. My favorite is number four. I actually wrote this poor sad sack back, answering his questions as best I could, and will post if there is another reply.